Build Your Confidence

Your story is more valuable than you think

Before you work on where you’re headed, it’s good to know your starting point. Your story helps you get clarity on why you’re doing what you’re doing, and it also helps your customers connect with you at a much deeper level. It helps you make sales.

Here’s a basic story framework

‘Normal Life’

What was your life like before?
What did you do day to day?

Challenges

Times of difficulty or hardship
Something changed for the worst
You hit ‘rock bottom’

Time for Change

Realisation that something must change
Learning or development
Pivoting a key area of your life

Life Now

How is it different?
What’s improved?
Future aspirations

Tell us your story: survey.zohopublic.eu/zs/akBzaB

Fill in this helpful online story prompt about your business and we’ll send your answers back to you in one document so you’ve got it all in one place to refer back to. Also, if you’re interested, if you can check the box and we can help promote your business on our channels.

How motivated are you?

Tap into your motivation in two ways using your vision and your day to day motivation.

For your vision, think about this:

What life do you want to create?
What do you want your business to become?
What will it feel like to get it?
What do you NOT want to happen?

For example:

I want freedom
I want to make more money
I want to teach my kids
I don’t want to be short of money
I don’t want to go to the job centre again
I don’t want to work for anyone else again

What affects your motivation?

You don’t get motivated TO DO something, you get motivated BY DOING something. Motivation is overrated – if you relied just on your motivation, you’d struggle to get your business going. Show up for yourself, create some daily tasks and habits because that will serve you when your motivation isn’t there.

We are a product of what we watch, what we read, what we listen to, who we hang out with, what we eat and drink and what we think about. If you put garbage in, you get garbage out.

Confidence is a game-changer.

Two footballers standing side by side with identical skills, physical attributes, and ambition. One is more confident than the other. Which one would you back to get picked for the team?

You can have an average product or service and a SUPER-CONFIDENT entrepreneur can make it become a successful business. But if you have a brilliant product or service and the entrepreneur isn’t feeling confident, then success will be harder to find.

Here are eight things you can do to send your confidence through the roof:

1. Choose to hang with people who BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE
Avoid people who drain it!
Hang around with eagles and you’ll learn how to fly.
Hang around with alley cats and you’ll spend your days scratching in the dirt.

2. Begin with the end in mind
This is what Stephen Covey famously said in his life-changing book: Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. But what does this mean?
First, you have to actually begin.
Take some action – you’ll get lots of confidence from doing that.
Then get the end goal in your mind – create a dream picture of what life will be like when you’ve got the success you want.
Where will you go? Where will you live? What car will you drive? Whose life will you change?

3. Have a mantra
Language is such a powerful tool. Imagine the impact if you told yourself five times every day something like this:
Every day I’m working on my confidence. I know that if I look more confident and feel more confident it will have a huge positive impact on my business. I believe in myself, and this will help everyone I meet to believe in me. I know I can do this.

4. Have a Soundtrack
Wake up tomorrow morning and try to make a phone call to a potential customer straight away. Then put Nirvana’s ‘Smells Like Teen Spirit’** on volume setting 397, jump around the room and notice how much more capable you feel to take on the world in your altered state.

** Insert your own track if Kurt and the boys don’t do it for you;
e.g. Whitney Houston – Dance With Somebody,
House of Pain – Jump Around.

I’d probably avoid Celine Dion songs.

5. Eat a frog
That thing you keep putting off is slowing down the computer in your brain. Imagine how fantastic you’ll feel after you’ve solved that problem.

6. Sell something
There’s nothing more confidence-boosting than having cash in your hands as a result of selling something to someone.

7. Walk tall
Your physiology directly affects how you feel. Go find a depressed person and look at their body shape.
Now go look at the most confident people on the planet and look how they stand. Look at the position of their chin, their shoulders, and their back.
I guarantee that if you walk to the bus stop as if you were Barack Obama, you’ll feel invincible by the time you show your pass to the driver.

8. Get uncomfortable
Everything you want in life is outside your comfort zone – otherwise, you’d already have it.
Stretch yourself – make those calls, send those emails, talk to strangers, ask the barista on a date, sit and talk to the homeless guy, high-five the bus driver, tell strangers they’re beautiful.